Monthly Archives: October 2019

Training/Employment opportunities for Asperger/Autistic Young Adults

I’ve previously written a post introducing intervention programmes for autistic children in Malaysia (see here). Today, I’d like to share a little finding on what young adults, especially (but not limited to) those with better functioning can do.

 

# Enabling Academy by Gamuda

The academy provides courses that “equip trainees with relevant soft skills and practical job training that are essential for employability”. I have had a client who were first few graduates from there and is now working in the finance industry. It doesn’t just prepare them for employment, but also pairs them with suitable job, and enables them to meet and socialise with people with similar “problems”.

Website: https://gamuda.com.my/sustainability/yayasan-gamuda/enabling-academy/

(Bravos to Gamuda for doing this! And undeniably hoping more and more big companies are doing this!)

 

# Hua Ming Autism Society

The society provides “vocational skill training for youth with autism above 16 years old” every Sunday. More details here.

 

# Bloomers Training House

This is a job training and employment centre, whose mission is “To integrate Young Adults with Special Needs into an inclusive society by providing them with meaningful Training and Employment.” So it’s not just for autism, but also other differently-abled young adults, like ADHD and Down syndrome.

Website: https://www.bloomerstraininghouse.com/

 

These are what I can find at the moment, please do let me know if you’re aware of any other relevant opportunities for them, by commenting below or write to me at hello@huibee.com

On a site note: there is a great award winning Malaysian produced true story based movie on autism “Guang” (光)which is pretty inspiring. Do watch it if you haven’t already.

 

Spoon-feeding information

Warning: This is a grumbling post. Read and take it seriously but not too seriously.

pm

Friend shared this this morning, I had a laugh followed by a frown. The problem has been there, this culture of “pm” under any and every post. I didn’t know that they even do it over whatsapp now for job application. Hello, you’re in whatsapp, it’s already pm lah. 

Definitely understand the frustration. I received this on my work email the other day:

PNSS

Don’t see any problem? Here is my very kind reply:

responsegmail

How can a group of students working on a project together, and none of them knows the mighty Google? It’s like the first result coming out can answer any question they might have about the scale. And what? “There is not even a single word information about the developer of this tool”

Some other ones I received that I can still remember:

AllInTitle

First of all, I’m not a Sir, but okay, you didn’t know, I accept it. Second, do you know what title is for? Third, where is your content? Fourth, what’s ADCP (expecting me to google myself lah) Fifth, which scale? Sixth, “its” not “it’s”. Seventh, correction “research” 10 times please. This I didn’t bother to reply. Eh but I sort of replied here already.

rudeemail

I don’t know what to say.

Sometimes we can be quite frustrated when patients read too much on the internet, leading to non-compliant of treatment or non-seeking help (just self-diagnose and treat). But I really won’t deny that the internet has provided extensive information so handy that if you have a red eye now late at night, you can roughly read about it online and see what you can do or not do till you see an eye specialist the next morning etc etc.

But I see that people are taking things for granted. It’s good to just ask when you’re unsure, but please ask good questions, and when you do, ask nicely, be clear and casual is okay. I’m not asking for a formal letter (you know what is that?), just a “Hi”, who you are and why you’re writing. Is it that difficult?

Values

你想要做个怎样的人?

“价值”(Values)是你心中作为一个人想要表现的最深切渴望。它不是关于你想要得到或实现的,它不是目标;它们是你长期想要行动的方式,你的行为带着的素质。

我们可以列出几百个不同的价值,但在下面你会找到一些较常见的。很可能地,并非所有这些都与你相关。请记住,没有诸如“正确的价值”或“错误的价值”。这有点像我们在点比萨的口味。如果你更喜欢火腿和菠萝,但我更喜欢萨拉米香肠和橄榄,这并不意味着我的比萨口味对,你的错了。这只意味着我们有不同的口味。同样,我们可能有不同的价值观。因此请仔细阅读下面的列表,并在每个值旁边写一个字母:

V =非常重要,Q =相当重要,N =不那么重要;并确保至少其中十个是非常重要。

  1. 接受:对自己、他人、生活等开放和接受
  2. 冒险:喜欢冒险;积极寻求,创造或探索刺激或新鲜体验
  3. (敢言)自信:尊重自己权利并要求我想要的东西
  4. 真实:真实,真诚;忠于自己
  5. 美丽:在自己、他人、环境中欣赏、创造或培养美丽
  6. 关怀:关心自己、他人、环境等
  7. 挑战:不断挑战自我成长,学习,提高
  8. 怜悯:对受苦的人表示善意
  9. 联系:充分参与我正在做的任何事情,并充分与他人在一起
  10. 贡献:为自己或他人做出贡献,帮助或产生积极影响
  11. 符合:尊重并遵守规则和义务
  12. 合作:与他人合作和协作
  13. 勇气:勇敢;坚持面对恐惧,威胁或困难
  14. 创造力:具有创造性或创新性
  15. 好奇心:好奇,思想开明,感兴趣;探索和发现
  16. 鼓励:鼓励和奖励我对自己或他人重视的行为
  17. 平等:将他人视为与自己平等,反之亦然
  18. 兴奋:寻求、创造和参与令人兴奋,刺激或惊险的活动
  19. 公平:对自己或他人公平
  20. 健身:保持或提高我的健康;照顾我的身心健康和幸福
  21. 灵活性:随时调整和适应不断变化的环境
  22. 自由:自由生活;选择我的生活和行为方式,或者帮助别人做同样的事情
  23. 友善:对他人陪伴、友好友善
  24. 宽恕:宽恕自己或他人
  25. 乐趣:爱好玩乐;寻求,创造和参与充满乐趣的活动
  26. 慷慨:对自己或他人慷慨,分享和奉献
  27. 感恩:感谢和欣赏我自己、他人和生活的积极方面
  28. 诚实:对自己和他人诚实,真诚
  29. 幽默:看到并欣赏生活中幽默的一面
  30. 谦卑:谦虚或中庸;让我的成就说明一切
  31. 行业:勤奋,敬业
  32. 独立:自我支持,选择自己的做事方式
  33. 亲密:开放、揭示和分享自己 — 情感上或身体 — 在亲密关系中
  34. 正义:维护正义和公平
  35. 善良:善良,富有同情心,体贴,养育或关心自己或他人
  36. :对自己或他人表现出亲切或关爱的行为
  37. 正念:带着开放与好奇,觉察此时此地的经验
  38. 秩序:有序和有组织
  39. 思想开放:仔细思考问题,从别人的角度看问题,以及公平地衡量证据。
  40. 耐心:冷静地等待我想要的东西
  41. 坚持:尽管存在问题或困难,仍坚决继续坚持。
  42. 快乐:为自己或他人创造和享受快乐
  43. 权力:强烈影响或对他人施加权威,例如:负责,领导,组织
  44. 互惠:建立在给予和接受之间取得公平平衡的关系
  45. 尊重:尊重自己或他人;礼貌,体贴和表现积极
  46. 责任:对我的行为负责
  47. 浪漫:浪漫;展示和表达爱或强烈的感情
  48. 安全:确保我或他人的安全
  49. 自我意识:了解自己的想法,感受和行动
  50. 自我照顾:照顾我的健康和幸福,满足我的需求
  51. 自我发展:保持知识、技能、性格或生活经历的发展,进步或提高
  52. 自我控制:按照我自己的理想行事
  53. 感觉性:创造,探索和享受刺激五感的经历
  54. 性欲:探索或表达我的性行为
  55. 灵性:与比我更大的事物联系起来
  56. 熟练:持续练习和提高我的技能,并充分发挥自己的作用
  57. 支持:支持、帮助、鼓励自己或他人
  58. 信任:值得信赖;忠诚,真诚,可靠
  59. 其它:在此填入您自己的价值:
  60. 其它:在此填入您自己的价值:

一旦你将每个值标记为V,Q,N(非常,相当或不那么重要),再回头看看所有V,并选出对你最重要的前六名。 用6来标记它们,显示它们是你的最重要的6个。 最后,写下这六个值,以提醒自己这是你想要作为一个人的立场。

视频:渐进式肌肉放松

人们常低估他们的身体和肌肉的紧张程度,也低估了他们可以放松的程度。 当他们躺在沙发上并说“现在我很放松”时,身体仍然会有许多不必要的紧张和肌张力。

埃德蒙·雅各布森(Edmund Jacobson,1888-1983)是一名美国内科、精神科医生,是第一个对“放松”进行了充分的研究和介绍的人。留意到他享年95岁吗?

EdmundJacobsons

那是他在展示面部肌肉放松…你认为他有在思考吗?

是的,当我们放松面部肌肉(尤其是眼睛和下巴)时,头脑也会跟着变得平静下来(没有思绪、没有内心对话和声音)。

>>>点击这里,以视觉的方式进行渐进式肌肉放松

 

(我知道肌肉放松是多么有益,但是在我的日常咨询中,在探讨“经验回避”(Experiential Avoidance)和“寻求安全行为”(Safety seeking behaviour)之前,我并不会教这个技能,否则它很可能被用作[不健康]的逃避)。