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Becoming a Hypnotherapist? (Online Course!)

Many of you might be aware that I was trained by the UK College of Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy back in 2012 and have a diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy. There used to be some readers messaging me to ask about taking the same course. And now! It’s launched! The online diploma training is now available!

Click the following link for more information about this Online Hypnotherapy Course.

And you have two options to take this training:

    1. Tutor supported (15 hours)
    2. Self-led

Why do I recommend this and not any other course? Not because I took this or I knew the director/principal/trainer of the College (he doesn’t even know that I’m writing this!), but because this is the only place that provides the most scientific and evidence-based hypnotherapy training, no bullsh*t! The course content is all based on experimental and clinical research, and still, you can become a hypnotherapist after completing the course.

Let me know if you have any questions about it. Or, go to the College’s website to find out more.

ACT Malaysia

Most readers of my blog know my passion on ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), and I’ve always felt quite “lonely” here as when I first came across it, I was in the UK, and when I practice it here in Malaysia, I have no one to talk about it with. So I’ve written this post about 9 months ago, paging for ACT Therapist in Malaysia.

I guess luck is on my side, few months ago Dr Eugene Koh from UPM contacted me. A group of them, who are psychiatric consultants cum ACT practitioners, are forming an ACT group.

So here is the website:

These are some other ACT therapists in Malaysia: (if you would like to join us, please write to

That’s me on the website:

Utterly grateful with their hard work of putting things together and connecting us! Looking forward to this community growing stronger and better together, supporting each other.


这是一个简短的“锚定”(dropping anchor)录音,适用于当您感到强烈的情绪并希望将自己引导到当下、此时此地的情况,并很好的面对/充分利用您所处的情况。(理想情况下,您必须已经和我在会谈中做过这个练习。)



  • 注意并承认您的痛苦想法。你在想什么?头脑说些什么? (“我注意到我在想我不够好,我是失败的人”)
  • 注意并确认您的感受和情绪。您的身体感觉如何? (沉重的胸口?肩膀绷紧?头痛?麻木?手冰冷?等等)
  • 回到您的身体,坐直/站直,感受脚下的地板在支持着你;将指尖放在一起,舒展一下,呼吸几下。
  • 用您的感官与外部环境建立联系。您能看见什么?你能听到什么?您可以触摸/品尝/闻到什么?(比如:识别您能听到的五个声音?)
  • 行动:既然您已经处于这种情况下了,那么您可以做些什么来更好的利用此时此地呢?



English version of Dropping Anchor

Training/Employment opportunities for Asperger/Autistic Young Adults

I’ve previously written a post introducing intervention programmes for autistic children in Malaysia (see here). Today, I’d like to share a little finding on what young adults, especially (but not limited to) those with better functioning can do.


# Enabling Academy by Gamuda

The academy provides courses that “equip trainees with relevant soft skills and practical job training that are essential for employability”. I have had a client who were first few graduates from there and is now working in the finance industry. It doesn’t just prepare them for employment, but also pairs them with suitable job, and enables them to meet and socialise with people with similar “problems”.


(Bravos to Gamuda for doing this! And undeniably hoping more and more big companies are doing this!)


 # United Voice 

The United Voice calls itself a “Self-advocacy Society of Persons with Learning Disabilities”. It also provides handcraft and baking courses, and counselling services.



# Hua Ming Autism Society

The society provides “vocational skill training for youth with autism above 16 years old” every Sunday. More details here.


# Bloomers Training House

This is a job training and employment centre, whose mission is “To integrate Young Adults with Special Needs into an inclusive society by providing them with meaningful Training and Employment.” So it’s not just for autism, but also other differently-abled young adults, like ADHD and Down syndrome.



These are what I can find at the moment, please do let me know if you’re aware of any other relevant opportunities for them, by commenting below or write to me at

On a site note: there is a great award winning Malaysian produced true story based movie on autism “Guang” (光)which is pretty inspiring. Do watch it if you haven’t already.


Spoon-feeding information

Warning: This is a grumbling post. Read and take it seriously but not too seriously.


Friend shared this this morning, I had a laugh followed by a frown. The problem has been there, this culture of “pm” under any and every post. I didn’t know that they even do it over whatsapp now for job application. Hello, you’re in whatsapp, it’s already pm lah. 

Definitely understand the frustration. I received this on my work email the other day:


Don’t see any problem? Here is my very kind reply:


How can a group of students working on a project together, and none of them knows the mighty Google? It’s like the first result coming out can answer any question they might have about the scale. And what? “There is not even a single word information about the developer of this tool”

Some other ones I received that I can still remember:


First of all, I’m not a Sir, but okay, you didn’t know, I accept it. Second, do you know what title is for? Third, where is your content? Fourth, what’s ADCP (expecting me to google myself lah) Fifth, which scale? Sixth, “its” not “it’s”. Seventh, correction “research” 10 times please. This I didn’t bother to reply. Eh but I sort of replied here already.


I don’t know what to say.

Sometimes we can be quite frustrated when patients read too much on the internet, leading to non-compliant of treatment or non-seeking help (just self-diagnose and treat). But I really won’t deny that the internet has provided extensive information so handy that if you have a red eye now late at night, you can roughly read about it online and see what you can do or not do till you see an eye specialist the next morning etc etc.

But I see that people are taking things for granted. It’s good to just ask when you’re unsure, but please ask good questions, and when you do, ask nicely, be clear and casual is okay. I’m not asking for a formal letter (you know what is that?), just a “Hi”, who you are and why you’re writing. Is it that difficult?





V =非常重要,Q =相当重要,N =不那么重要;并确保至少其中十个是非常重要。

  1. 接受:对自己、他人、生活等开放和接受
  2. 冒险:喜欢冒险;积极寻求,创造或探索刺激或新鲜体验
  3. (敢言)自信:尊重自己权利并要求我想要的东西
  4. 真实:真实,真诚;忠于自己
  5. 美丽:在自己、他人、环境中欣赏、创造或培养美丽
  6. 关怀:关心自己、他人、环境等
  7. 挑战:不断挑战自我成长,学习,提高
  8. 怜悯:对受苦的人表示善意
  9. 联系:充分参与我正在做的任何事情,并充分与他人在一起
  10. 贡献:为自己或他人做出贡献,帮助或产生积极影响
  11. 符合:尊重并遵守规则和义务
  12. 合作:与他人合作和协作
  13. 勇气:勇敢;坚持面对恐惧,威胁或困难
  14. 创造力:具有创造性或创新性
  15. 好奇心:好奇,思想开明,感兴趣;探索和发现
  16. 鼓励:鼓励和奖励我对自己或他人重视的行为
  17. 平等:将他人视为与自己平等,反之亦然
  18. 兴奋:寻求、创造和参与令人兴奋,刺激或惊险的活动
  19. 公平:对自己或他人公平
  20. 健身:保持或提高我的健康;照顾我的身心健康和幸福
  21. 灵活性:随时调整和适应不断变化的环境
  22. 自由:自由生活;选择我的生活和行为方式,或者帮助别人做同样的事情
  23. 友善:对他人陪伴、友好友善
  24. 宽恕:宽恕自己或他人
  25. 乐趣:爱好玩乐;寻求,创造和参与充满乐趣的活动
  26. 慷慨:对自己或他人慷慨,分享和奉献
  27. 感恩:感谢和欣赏我自己、他人和生活的积极方面
  28. 诚实:对自己和他人诚实,真诚
  29. 幽默:看到并欣赏生活中幽默的一面
  30. 谦卑:谦虚或中庸;让我的成就说明一切
  31. 行业:勤奋,敬业
  32. 独立:自我支持,选择自己的做事方式
  33. 亲密:开放、揭示和分享自己 — 情感上或身体 — 在亲密关系中
  34. 正义:维护正义和公平
  35. 善良:善良,富有同情心,体贴,养育或关心自己或他人
  36. :对自己或他人表现出亲切或关爱的行为
  37. 正念:带着开放与好奇,觉察此时此地的经验
  38. 秩序:有序和有组织
  39. 思想开放:仔细思考问题,从别人的角度看问题,以及公平地衡量证据。
  40. 耐心:冷静地等待我想要的东西
  41. 坚持:尽管存在问题或困难,仍坚决继续坚持。
  42. 快乐:为自己或他人创造和享受快乐
  43. 权力:强烈影响或对他人施加权威,例如:负责,领导,组织
  44. 互惠:建立在给予和接受之间取得公平平衡的关系
  45. 尊重:尊重自己或他人;礼貌,体贴和表现积极
  46. 责任:对我的行为负责
  47. 浪漫:浪漫;展示和表达爱或强烈的感情
  48. 安全:确保我或他人的安全
  49. 自我意识:了解自己的想法,感受和行动
  50. 自我照顾:照顾我的健康和幸福,满足我的需求
  51. 自我发展:保持知识、技能、性格或生活经历的发展,进步或提高
  52. 自我控制:按照我自己的理想行事
  53. 感觉性:创造,探索和享受刺激五感的经历
  54. 性欲:探索或表达我的性行为
  55. 灵性:与比我更大的事物联系起来
  56. 熟练:持续练习和提高我的技能,并充分发挥自己的作用
  57. 支持:支持、帮助、鼓励自己或他人
  58. 信任:值得信赖;忠诚,真诚,可靠
  59. 其它:在此填入您自己的价值:
  60. 其它:在此填入您自己的价值:

一旦你将每个值标记为V,Q,N(非常,相当或不那么重要),再回头看看所有V,并选出对你最重要的前六名。 用6来标记它们,显示它们是你的最重要的6个。 最后,写下这六个值,以提醒自己这是你想要作为一个人的立场。