Yes that’s me!
Yes that’s me!
The above are some statements measuring level of emotional distress. They can serve as a guideline that something might start to go wrong in life.
It is a difficult time for almost everyone, whether it is the economy globally, crime rates in the country, personal financial issues or major life events, or day to day stress from work, family, relationships etc. We might not be able to change all these challenging situations, but we are able to change our perceptions to them, and improve our coping abilities and psychological resilience.
I am a psychologist specialised in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). I am also trained in Problem Solving Therapy and Hypnotherapy. I help people to pick up the role of therapist for their own problems.
Feel free to leave a comment below, or contact me via email@example.com or 017-2757813.
I’ve previously written a post introducing intervention programmes for autistic children in Malaysia (see here). Today, I’d like to share a little finding on what young adults, especially (but not limited to) those with better functioning can do.
# Enabling Academy by Gamuda
The academy provides courses that “equip trainees with relevant soft skills and practical job training that are essential for employability”. I have had a client who were first few graduates from there and is now working in the finance industry. It doesn’t just prepare them for employment, but also pairs them with suitable job, and enables them to meet and socialise with people with similar “problems”.
(Bravos to Gamuda for doing this! And undeniably hoping more and more big companies are doing this!)
# Hua Ming Autism Society
The society provides “vocational skill training for youth with autism above 16 years old” every Sunday. More details here.
# Bloomers Training House
This is a job training and employment centre, whose mission is “To integrate Young Adults with Special Needs into an inclusive society by providing them with meaningful Training and Employment.” So it’s not just for autism, but also other differently-abled young adults, like ADHD and Down syndrome.
These are what I can find at the moment, please do let me know if you’re aware of any other relevant opportunities for them, by commenting below or write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
On a site note: there is a great award winning Malaysian produced true story based movie on autism “Guang” （光）which is pretty inspiring. Do watch it if you haven’t already.
Warning: This is a grumbling post. Read and take it seriously but not too seriously.
Friend shared this this morning, I had a laugh followed by a frown. The problem has been there, this culture of “pm” under any and every post. I didn’t know that they even do it over whatsapp now for job application. Hello, you’re in whatsapp, it’s already pm lah.
Definitely understand the frustration. I received this on my work email the other day:
Don’t see any problem? Here is my very kind reply:
How can a group of students working on a project together, and none of them knows the mighty Google? It’s like the first result coming out can answer any question they might have about the scale. And what? “There is not even a single word information about the developer of this tool”
Some other ones I received that I can still remember:
First of all, I’m not a Sir, but okay, you didn’t know, I accept it. Second, do you know what title is for? Third, where is your content? Fourth, what’s ADCP (expecting me to google myself lah) Fifth, which scale? Sixth, “its” not “it’s”. Seventh, correction “research” 10 times please. This I didn’t bother to reply. Eh but I sort of replied here already.
I don’t know what to say.
Sometimes we can be quite frustrated when patients read too much on the internet, leading to non-compliant of treatment or non-seeking help (just self-diagnose and treat). But I really won’t deny that the internet has provided extensive information so handy that if you have a red eye now late at night, you can roughly read about it online and see what you can do or not do till you see an eye specialist the next morning etc etc.
But I see that people are taking things for granted. It’s good to just ask when you’re unsure, but please ask good questions, and when you do, ask nicely, be clear and casual is okay. I’m not asking for a formal letter (you know what is that?), just a “Hi”, who you are and why you’re writing. Is it that difficult?
V =非常重要，Q =相当重要，N =不那么重要；并确保至少其中十个是非常重要。
一旦你将每个值标记为V，Q，N（非常，相当或不那么重要），再回头看看所有V，并选出对你最重要的前六名。 用6来标记它们，显示它们是你的最重要的6个。 最后，写下这六个值，以提醒自己这是你想要作为一个人的立场。
（我知道肌肉放松是多么有益，但是在我的日常咨询中，在探讨“经验回避”（Experiential Avoidance）和“寻求安全行为”（Safety seeking behaviour）之前，我并不会教这个技能，否则它很可能被用作[不健康]的逃避）。
People often underestimate how tensed their body and muscles are, and also underestimate how much more they can relax. When they lie on the couch and say “Now I’m relaxed”, there is often still a lot of unneeded tension and muscle tones in the body.
“Relaxation” was first properly studied and introduced by Edmund Jacobson (1888-1983). Notice how long he’d lived?
That’s him showing facial muscle relaxation… Do you think he’s having any thoughts in his mind? (You can read more about this man here.)
Yes, when you relax your facial muscles (especially the eyes and jaw), your mind tends to become quiet.
(I know how beneficial muscle relaxation can be, but I don’t teach this skill much in my daily practice before “experiential avoidance” and “safety seeking behaviour” are explored, it’s definitely not to be used as an [unhealthy] avoidance).