The Twenty Guidelines for Slowing Down
- You ask for help; you seek a mentor who believes in slowing down for guidance and support.
- You develop a recovery action plan.
- You begin to make small steps toward change.
- You learn to pause, to reflect on your behaviour, feelings and thinking.
- You ask yourself, “What am I doing?”
- You feel the reality of limits and face the feeling of failure.
- You become aware of feelings, and learn to listen to them,
- You trust that the high of impulsive action is not the feeling you seek.
- You develop a wider range of new feelings.
- You come to trust that deep, intimate human “connection” exists in a slowed down, quiet state.
- You behave in the reality of limits.
- You learn to recognize and challenge your belief in entitlement.
- You challenge your belief in willpower.
- You believe in the value of small steps and a slower sense of time.
- You believe in a new definition of success: your best effort within a structure of limits.
- You believe in the value of delay, endurance and the concept of “enough”.
- You believe that growth and the change are not instant; that “quick fixes” reinforce the thinking of fast and impulsive action.
- You believe in the value and necessity of reflection as a part of health and success.
- You challenge your all-or-none thinking.
- You give new meaning to “service”.
Adapted from Speed: Facing Our Addiction to Fast and Faster – And Overcoming Our Fear of Slowing Down, by Stephanie Brown Phd.