There was this young beautiful girl, who from the age of 16, got into her first relationship with a working guy. She then became so obsessed, and had the delusions that the boyfriend was flirting with other girls, having an affair with others etc. She skipped classes, and went to her boyfriend’s working place to “watch over” him, see what he was doing, who he talked with…
Over the years the girl got into various relationships, because of how beautiful she is, guys get attracted, and when she becomes attached, she also gets really obsessed and possessive, especially when the guy having any contact with other girls, despite how faithful the guys were. The girl slowly realized this a problem, and consulted a psychiatrist. Over the years she also gained insight with her problem — a condition now called “morbid jealousy”.
Morbid jealousy is a psychiatric condition where the person holds strong belief that his/her partner is being unfaithful without any convincing or “solid” evidence that this belief is true. It tends to happen over and over again no matter how many partner this person changes and how “innocent” the partner is.
It is getting to quite a common condition nowadays. As we would probably all expect that conditions like anxiety disorders and depression would be a lot more common, now probably every 1 in 10 people with a psychiatric condition comes to the clinic due to this problem, although most of them may not understand this as their problem (but only think that they can’t sleep, get anxious easily, feel unhappy, got no appetite, is bad-tempered, gets agitated easily… which can simply appear as anxiety depression).
Here it’s important to clarify that morbid jealousy doesn’t apply when actually you find some convincing evidence, or when you are just feeling a bit insecure whether your partner gets a bit too close to someone (yes, just a bit insecure, which does not affect your life that much, and problem may simply be solved after you speak calmly with your partner), or when it’s just part of a more sensitive type of personality.
For the patient’s partner to come to understand that their partner has this problem would be helpful to the patient, and being understanding, considerate, supportive and patient to the patient will be significant to the process of recovery.
N.B.: This was first posted at huibee.blogspot.com by the same author