About half an hour after she and her husband left the clinic, she made a phone call, saying she wanted to speak to the doctor. She asked how serious her “illness” is, what diagnosis she has had, whether she is going crazy etc. At first I thought she was worried about her illness and about not being able to recover. So I explained she just got mood disorder, sometimes a bit harder to control her mood and emotions, but it isn’t serious, and will recover taking the medicine and maybe with some self-help.
However, after my explanation, “but my husband said I’m ok, I don’t have any illness. I told him I need to take medicine, if I’m ok, why do I need medicine?” She, in an almost screaming voice, said this. I volunteered myself to speak to her husband, telling him the importance to have supportive family members in the process of recovery, and although not serious, his wife does have mood disorder, so please try not to upset her, but give her full support and care she needs.
Few days later when I spoke to her again, she has got much calmer having the medicine running in her body. She said her husband still shouts at her, but she has complete no interest in having argument with him now. One thing she still doesn’t understand, her husband is the main reason she needs to take medicine, or else she’ll probably be fine. But why isn’t husband the person who should be taking medicine?
I have encountered quite a number of cases like this, usually the woman who comes for consultation and treatment, quite often due to their partner who is very bad-tempered, easily agitated, or having some not very severe mental health issues, unfaithful, having another family or missus outside etc. The problem of the woman in fact originates from the man, but then the problem continues to develop and the woman becomes easily agitated, paranoid, suspicious, disorientated, … … then she’s coming for treatment!
Though here it’s still very important to emphasise, that there are a lot of women out there who cope with those kind of problems without developing mental health problems themselves, and able to go through it with their resilience.