I have no idea since when the social media has had such an effect on wedding plannings (from the proposal, ROM, traditional wedding, wedding banquet, pre-wedding shootings, honeymoon etc). I quite enjoy looking at those pictures that people share, I normally ‘like’ them. Quite often the videos made are really touching.
Last week I attended a wedding dinner. It was a beautiful well-planned dinner, filled with laughter and tears of joy. I had a great night gathered with my high school friends, taking lots of pictures, they even had the services for us to edit and print the photos out on the spot.
On the next day, I was having a dinner date with couple of girl friends after work. During this dinner, I almost shed some tears… Because I came to know that the friend’s husband has a mistress, and this is not the worst part — he doesn’t want a divorce, but he also doesn’t want to leave the woman, and he’s using their daughter to threaten my friend! What the hell?! They were just married for about 2 years (though they had been in a courtship for almost 10 years before the marriage), and I was there on her wedding day and banquet. I can still remember the scene when she was hugging her parents and granny, how it touched me.
Family and friends, close or not, they celebrate your big day with you. They congratulate you and your spouse, hug you, give you their best wishes, tell you how beautiful you look, like your pictures, commented on your videos etc etc.
What happen after that? After all these beautiful pictures and videos posted? What happen behind that? What happen on the next day, next month, next year and decade?
It can be, but it really shouldn’t be about how much you spend on your wedding, how luxurious your wedding seem, how glamorous you and your spouse appear, how many pictures and videos are taken, how many friends and relatives are invited, how big the wedding hall is, how exclusive the decorations are, how many likes & comments you get on facebook etc, it should be how you and your special one, walk through this path we call life, hand in hand, through ups and downs.