by Harris Ng Yoke Meng
This book was bought from MPH at RM38 many years ago. It is now no longer available in most of the major bookstores in Malaysia, but I believe it’s possible to order it at MPH or Kinokuniya.
The book serves as an inspirational story to sufferers of mental illness and their caregivers, and for me, more importantly and personally as a mental health professional, it helps us to care for the mentally ill more sensitively and effectively.
I remember Harris talked about revealing his illness to his then 3 month girl friend Violet, on a Valentine’s day, how she was shocked and then willingly going to see his psychiatrist together. This reminds me a lot about the patients in our clinic, who sometimes bring their new partner to see us, wanting their partner to understand their illness better and sometimes planning their future based on that. You might guess that experience like this would scare them off, but no, quite often, those partners are just like Violet in the book, having deep love and attachment for the patient that they can also accept this part of them.
Towards the end of the book there was also some discussions on the media’s portrayals of the mentally ill committing crimes, which often end in homicide, murder or suicide.
Such bizarre stories, though real, often stigmatise the sickness. Although there are hundreds of thousands of mental health cases, perhaps only one in a thousand end up in such a mess. The press much provide follow-up reports. What happened after that? … Should society continue to view mental illness with deadly fear?
What to do when one who suffers from mental illness committed crimes due to his mental states?
By Lori Schiller
It is brilliant book, very informative, from the views of different persons (the patient herself, parents, brother, close friend/housemate during the onset, attending psychiatrist etc). It gave me a feeling that I could go into her head and understand, for example, why certain patients who clearly do hear voices denied it so strongly; how one might interpret those voices, so differently from practitioners’ way. In addition, it suggests the insight of how immediate family members handle the fact that their closed one is a “schizophrenic”, and not just pretending, manipulating or attention seeking.
Also here’s a great quote from her psychiatrist,
A long time ago I realized that, as psychiatrists, we had to have a healthy respect for our own humanness, and our own smallness in the face of what we were dealing with. If a person got better, we could appreciate that we had done a great job, but we also needed to realize that God – or luck – was on our side. If the person got worse, we had to keep ourselves from feeling that we hadn’t done enough. For the truth is, we were powerless in so many of these situations. We did what we could, but sometimes the illness was just bigger than we were.
And from the mother,
How many times over the past few years had I wondered why we had fought so hard to keep Lori alive. She was so miserable. She was so unhappy. She was only staying alive to please us. …
Depression & ECT
Can we allow a severely depressed patient to make the decision?
“We would like to know who the person or persons [who killed our daughter] are, so we could share, hopefully, a love that seems to be missing in these people’s lives”
The full story about this quote is in the non-fiction, “David & Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits and the Art of Battling Giants” by Malcolm Gladwell. This is the second time I’m reading his book (the first was “Outliers: The story of Success“), which was also a Christmas present from the UK.
Of course it’s not just about one true story, but this one mentioned above in particular strikes me a little more. His book is again, thought-provoking, counter-intuitive, entertaining, intriguing, based on scientific evidence and real stories. I can’t say better words for it. Do get a copy and read it. (I happen to have two copies as my friend sent it to me two years in a row, so if you’d like a free copy just get it from me).
By Malcolm Gladwell
By Malcolm Gladwell
This book is a Christmas present from a friend in the UK. It’d been lying in my shelf for at least 2 or 3 years till i picked it up. And guess what, I’ve really enjoyed it. I don’t understand how i could have not heard about this author all these years. Malcolm Gladwell, one of the Time Magazine’s 100 most influential people in 2005.
“OUTLIERS – the story of success”. There are a lot of interesting research findings in it, it doesn’t just tell you how to be successful, not at all (in fact in a lot of cases it’s telling you you can’t be the extraordinary one because of …). But he really helps to make sense of many things…
Now i know why in my class there are always more students born in the first half of the year, and what we might do to change this; how certain people become so successful not due to their “gifted talent” but they’ve worked more than 10,000 hours before they reached where they’re today; why certain airlines of certain social psychologists defined cultures are more likely to crash; why maths of children from certain regions of Asia are better than the rest of the world and it has nothing to do with their “IQ” or “inherited abilities”; how children are brought up matters a lot – parenting styles, what they do during summers, social classes too! Rich students learnt more in the summer term than throughout the whole school year! Etc etc.
I don’t want to spoil the book. But I’m going to read another of his book. It’s not so much clinical psychology, but psychology in general. Anyone can read, anyone! And I’d particularly recommend it to parents and parents-to-be.
“Outliers are those who have been given opportunities — and who have had the strength and presence of mind to seize them”
This is my second Robin Sharma’s book, following “The Leader who had no title.”
I bought it with RM 34.90 (before 10% membership discount) at Popular bookstore. And guess what, I just happened to find its pdf file here, for free?!
Firstly, I have to say this is a very well-titled book. It doesn’t just tell you what the book is about, it also attracts people to pick it up, wanting to read the content. I’ve taken quite some time to read it, though it’s such a small book. I wanted to slowly digest it, and practise what it says whenever possible.
So the book is written in the form of a story, saying to…
- master your mind
- follow your purpose
- practice kaizen
- live with discipline
- respect your time
- selflessly serve others
- embrace present
It’s practical, it is practicable. I don’t like so much of theories and meaning and quotes, when they tell you this and that, without telling you how to do it, achieve it, without giving you the application tools. But Robin does tell you what to do. So the only problem is – whether you do it.
I think every house should have a copy of it. It might not help everyone all the time (though a friend told me Robin’s books have been with her through ups and downs), it should still be worthwhile to go back to it once in a while.
It’s not what you will get out of the books that’s so enriching – it’s what the books will get out of you that will ultimately change your life