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Introducing “The Quiet Room”

By Lori Schiller

By Lori Schiller

It is brilliant book, very informative, from the views of different persons (the patient herself, parents, brother, close friend/housemate during the onset, attending psychiatrist etc). It gave me a feeling that I could go into her head and understand, for example, why certain patients who clearly do hear voices denied it so strongly; how one might interpret those voices, so differently from practitioners’ way. In addition, it suggests the insight of how immediate family members handle the fact that their closed one is a “schizophrenic”, and not just pretending, manipulating or attention seeking.

Also here’s a great quote from her psychiatrist,

A long time ago I realized that, as psychiatrists, we had to have a healthy respect for our own humanness, and our own smallness in the face of what we were dealing with. If a person got better, we could appreciate that we had done a great job, but we also needed to realize that God – or luck – was on our side. If the person got worse, we had to keep ourselves from feeling that we hadn’t done enough. For the truth is, we were powerless in so many of these situations. We did what we could, but sometimes the illness was just bigger than we were.

And from the mother,

How many times over the past few years had I wondered why we had fought so hard to keep Lori alive. She was so miserable. She was so unhappy. She was only staying alive to please us. …

面对焦虑

焦虑就像一只老虎,你为了避开它,减少它可能对你造成的伤害,你给了它一块肉,希望它吃了肉可以离开。是的,它可能离开一会儿,可是,猜一猜,给了它那块肉以后,它真的不再回来了吗?可能一两个小时,可能一两天,这回它又饿了,可能更饿了,更强大,要更多更大块的肉。

焦虑也一样,你越是逃避它害怕它,越是为了它作出不必要的牺牲(害怕在社交场合被拒绝,干脆不去参加舞会;担心无法把工作做好,花更多的时间在担心而不是完成工作,甚至最后真的无法完成),它下一次再出现,只会变得更强烈,让你更不舒服、更恐惧、更害怕。

可是如果你选择和焦虑处在一起,它固然让你感到不舒服,但它并不危险,一段时间后,你的焦虑感会开始下降,下次再面临一样的处境,你也不再那么焦虑,即使还是有一定程度的焦虑,你的头脑也能告诉你,基于上次相处的经验,其实这个焦虑感可能让你感到不舒服,但它并不危险,你并不用逃避它。

那不逃避,就是怎么做呢?如何直接面对它呢?如何接受情绪呢?首先告诉自己,这感觉可能让你感到不舒服,但是它不会对你造成伤害。你可以感受一下它处于身体的哪个部分,比如胸口闷闷地,颈项后方有点紧、心跳有点快、或肚子有些不舒服等,识别它们,并容许、允许它们存在于那里,就像一个朋友带了一个你不太喜欢的客人来到你家一起聚餐,但你并不因此把他赶走,或者为了他一个人,不去招待其他客人,你还是允许他的存在,继续享受你的聚餐、继续做你想做的事。对任何情绪,其实都一样,都可以这么做。

Muscle Relaxation

Core principles of muscle relaxation:

  • Non-doing: you can’t do muscle relaxation. It is a ceasing of doing. A ceasing of effort.
  • There is always a deeper level of relaxation (people underestimate how much they can relax)

Here is a recording of muscle relaxation skills training:

Muscle Relaxation Recording (English) 

It starts around 6 seconds later. Basically you will be asked to tense various muscle groups in turn, then relax them as deeply as possible.

In general only a few practice of this would be sufficient to develop awareness of muscle tension during the day, then you can just use the cue words (in the recording) to relax any muscle group during exhalation any time of the day, anywhere once you notice the tension. This means that you will not need this guided audio in the long run.