Monthly Archives: February 2021

Online Group Therapy

Basic & General, Treatment Approaches

Are you interested to join some online group psychotherapy sessions, with your closed friends, family or some others?

Recently I received some enquiries on group therapy. One of them is a few friends who think they have been so stressed and wish to learn some stress management and coping with difficulties in life together. Another enquiry is someone who wishes he could manage anger and emotions better, and asked if I run “anger management” online group therapy. Off and on I get those, but it’s not frequent. But with the pandemic situation, perhaps there is such need now?

So yes I’d like to start doing this. I’d like you to register your interest in the google form: https://forms.gle/QyXYdjNdHxgJi2TQ9

I might offer the first few sessions for free since I’m also having to try out how effective this can be online, with you providing constructive feedback to me in the end so that I can improve the sessions helping others.

Some benefits of group therapy:

  • Group experience is usually great
  • Group therapy is usually more affordable! (at least I do plan to charge less)
  • You feel less lonely in the journey
  • Gaining perspective listening to others
  • Learning from diverse experience
  • It might develop into some supportive relationships (compared to 1:1 therapy which you don’t get to meet others)
  • Staying motivated and propelling yourself forward with the group
  • Brushing up your social skills!
  • Sharing can be healing

To learn more or share your ideas, please click on the google form: https://forms.gle/QyXYdjNdHxgJi2TQ9

Alternatively, you can write to me too at hello@huibee.com

What’s good about Covid-19?

Anxiety Disorder, Depression,

Really, if you have to come up with some positive points about Covid-19, what can you think of?

It’s an exercise I have done with two of my support group members, initially most of them were like.. “Huh? Positive thing about Covid?”, “I can’t think of any”, and after squeezing their brain juices, “Ok, maybe xxx…” reluctantly. But I collected a rather long list in the end, there were more and more coming out:

  • spending more quality time with family
  • spending more time with the self (some people never get the chance to do so)
  • developing some new habits and routine (e.g. work out, cooking their own meals)
  • developing some new interests (e.g. baking, cooking, growing plant, DIY this and that)
  • learning new skills online (e.g. yoga, taekwando, cooking, coding)
  • rediscovering some old passions
  • working from home, saving time on traffic and money on petrol/toll
  • more things go online, becoming more accessible (not just clothes, now you can get fresh seafood and physiotherapy online too)
  • people are more accepting anything online (e.g. psychotherapy, university courses, ballet classes)
  • better problem solving skills facing difficulties, how a lot of people transformed their business and work and career creatively
  • becoming more resilient, more able to cope with stress and challenges
  • spending less on unnecessary items (working from home, no longer need to buy office outfits)
  • started finance planning (due to pay cut, less income generated during this period)
  • better for the earth, animals, plants when humans are all staying home
  • contemplating what humans have done to the mother earth and natural environment
  • contemplating what a tiny virus can lead to and how we should change
  • developing much better hygiene related habits, like washing hands after coming home, wearing masks
  • having more personal space in the public areas! (many people with and without anxiety related issues love this)
  • watching live concert online (being very close without paying for the expensive tickets and worrying about parking, traffic etc)
  • not going home for Chinese New Year celebration, meaning they don’t have to face the relatives and answer their questions (“Why are you still single? Why aren’t you getting married? Why aren’t you having children? Why aren’t you having another baby?” etc) (Happy Chinese New Year, by the way!)

Can you come up with more?

停！！

Basic & General, Treatment Approaches,

Screenshot of BobNewhart video
视频的截图

这是一个非常简短的咨询治疗视频，由美国喜剧脱口秀演员 Bob Newhart 扮演的治疗师。它是一个英语视频，带中文字幕。看一看！

>>点击这里看视频<<

我在学习“思维停止”的技术的时候发现这个视频。说真的，有时候我认为这正是很多人仅仅需要的治疗（强迫症患者、认为必须控制想法的人除外）。

觉察你的想法，停止它们（不继续思考／反应），接受你所感觉到的一切，关注当下，运用你的感官感觉，关注外在环境（而不是内部环境－你的想法），做你想做的事情！

记住，只有当下是存在！其他一切只存在于你的思绪里。

还记得，你不能阻止这些想法突然出现，但是你可以决定你对他们的反应。

当然很多时候你发现你无法控制，那你也可以做一些练习，帮助你觉察这些大脑弹出来的想法、学习如何观察它们、如何不反应（很重要！）。