The wife has requested to divorce earlier this year.

This is a husband who has no bad habits, and has not done anything guilty to the wife and their 3 daughters. He has supported the family financially and mentally from day one.

Why is the wife unhappy about the marriage? Frequent rows? Personality? Wife having affairs? Too boring?

They have their first daughter about 10 years ago. One year later the wife is pregnant again, and one day when she was already 8 months pregnant, the husband called the wife, and needed the wife to do something for work urgently. The wife did it as requested. And that was the day, the baby boy was born prematurely, … then passed away one day later.

In the next 5 years they have another two baby girls. But the wife couldn’t let go of it, the one and only baby boy. She blames it all on the husband, even after 8 years, can still never forgive him. She thinks the husband ruined her day and hence the water broke earlier. She thinks if the baby wasn’t born prematurely he wouldn’t have died.

She could be right. But is the husband not feeling guilty about it? Will the husband want his baby boy to die? If he knew that could happen, even on the slightest chance, will he still want the wife to do that?

OK well we can’t judge whether one’s guilty just by saying he has no motive to do so, because people do make mistake accidentally, just because you somehow kill this person accidentally, doesn’t make you guilt-free.

Now every day the wife is picking on the husband, moody, bad-tempered, and getting angry over little things. She tried to take some chinese herbs medicine, but the traditional chinese med doctor said her condition is getting so bad that she’d have to see a psychiatrist for a faster effect and action on her condition. The husband also tried to bring her to see Clinical Psychologists and went through a few sessions. But still, she couldn’t let go of the incident, and is putting the marriage and the family’s happiness at stake.

Nobody’s fault isn’t it? But when you step into her shoes you may understand why she’s feeling and behaving this way. Yet I feel so sorry for the husband and 3 daughters.

When traditional chinese medicine and psychotherapy (quit half-way) failed, will medicine help this family?