Monthly Archives: May 2024

Frequent hardship makes a society more resilient

Do you think it’s applicable to individuals too?

I just read this on the New York Times, I guess it’s not surprising that frequent hardship like famine, war etc makes a society more resilient. Just like ecosystems that go through frequent disturbances become the most resilient too.

But think about people around you, do you think some individuals who survive frequent hardship become the strongest to bounce back, compare with those who have had a smooth life?

What are the other deciding factors?

I’m looking at this as a school counsellor. I work with kids who come from very privileged background, whose, should they fail all their high school final exams, parents could probably open a university in a big city just for them. But I also work with kids who come from very underprivileged backgrounds, who are here on scholarships. They are all in the same school. Often people question why the world is so unfair. One could look at their classmate every day and have all sort of “how if” in their mind.

Which of these groups might be more resilient in face of hardship? (Obviously there are probably many other factors that play a part here)

I’m also looking at this as a parent (a very new one). How do you think we could raise kids who are more resilient? Who can bounce back after falls? Kids who are confident and resilient?

Hui Bee’s latest update

Hello! Hope you are all well reading this? This is a blog that I’ve been updating regularly since 2013. What has made Hui Bee disappeared for so many months?

Well, I’m alive, in fact, contented and gratified with where I am at this point of my life. I’ve been thinking about my blog and wanting to write an update but haven’t got a chance to sit down and do so.

The answer is, I have a baby. He is now 8.5 months old. So I guess that explains most of the things. I’ve returned to work in January this year, but haven’t resumed my private work as a psychotherapist, coach and Hypno-CBT supervisor. To be honest, I don’t foresee myself resuming those till much later this year.

I’ve never thought that I’d become the kind of mother I have become. I miss my baby on days that I have to be away for work for a few hours. The thing is I’ve always been quite a self-centred person all my life, now this self-less situation, this putting-him-before-me-and-sometimes-forgetting-my-own-needs kind of situation is very very new to me. Every day I’m learning, with him, from him.

So really, just a quick update that I’ve been doing good, (or I’m still alive!), and if you’d like to reach out for any quick chat or general guidance, please send me an email via hello@huibee.com. I accidentally lost my malaysia registered cell phone numbers unfortunately… So do NOT whatsapp or call the numbers anymore.

I will slowly come back to writing and updating my blog. In fact I have so much to share!! I just need to come back to writing… (without being so obsessed about my baby!)