Deep down inside, what do you really want?
Happy? Rich? Healthy? Successful? A perfect husband/wife? A great job?
It’s the first day of 2015. Usually people are setting goals around this period of time. New year, new resolutions!
But this year I’m going to ask for some changes, how about not setting goals, how about asking yourself, what do you really value in your life? What’s most important to your life?
So what are values?
- Our heart’s deepest desires: how we want to be, what we want to stand for and how we want to relate to the world around us.
- Leading principles that can guide us and motivate us as we move through life.
- Values are not to be evaluated, but serve as the chosen standard by which other things can be evaluated.
Why values and not goals?
- A value is a direction we desire to keep moving in; an ongoing process that never reaches an end
- A goal is a desired outcome that can be achieved or completed. Once achieved, it can be crossed off the list.
- So if you want to get married, that’s a goal; But if you want to be a caring and supportive person, those are values. Values such as these are way of acting within your control, rather than consequences that are in part, down to external factors or up to chance.
- Connecting with our values gives us a sense that our hard work is worth the effort. Values provide a powerful antidote: a way to give your life purpose, meaning and passion. Unlike goals, you may one day achieve a goal you desperately working hard for all your life and feel so lost not knowing what to do next.
- Once you have had your values set, you can then work out your goals based on your values.
So now, sit down with a pen and paper (or your tablet/smartphone), take some time to really think what you really want and value in your different aspects of your life, imagine when you’re 80 years old and reflecting back on your life…
You’ll realize that values are like compass of your life giving you sense of direction!